Walking and Talking

Gen 3:6  And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.

In our verse today we are witness to the fall of man.  The singular event in the history of man that has brought devastating consequences to every human born from Adam and Eve.  One cannot help but wonder how different man’s relationship and fellowship with God might have been had this moment played out differently.

That causes me to wonder about the singular moments in marriages that might have produced a much different outcome had they been handled differently.

Notice in this verse and the preceding that Adam is strangely silent.  Was it his fault or Eve’s that he was not involved in the conversation and consideration of the options?  It matters little, what does matter is that Adam and Eve were not in communication about the events in their respective lives.  This serves to warn us of the importance of conversation and communication in a marriage.

Most couples are taken captive by satan at his will by virtue of the fiery dart of distraction.  Adam was to be dressing and keeping the garden and Eve was to be his helper.  They were designed to fit together and work together.  They were given language and a common bond for the purpose of being one flesh, but something happened that made them vulnerable to the subtle assault of satan.  That ‘something’ might very well have been a failure in their communication.  Did Eve act independently of Adam?  Was Adam so busy as to not notice something was bothering his bride?  Surely she was acting differently as she pondered the ruse of the serpent, but Adam took no notice of it.

The result was decisions were made that were not considered as a team, as the one flesh God had designed and directed them to be.  Certainly had they nurtured that portion of the bond of marriage that required them to have daily communication this tragedy in their marriage might have been averted.   Had they simply stayed interested and invested in the life of the other their marriage would have had a much different story to tell.  Today, when you arrive home, take time to ask your spouse about their day.  Ask them of the challenges and blessings.  And then LISTEN to their reply.  Be encouraged and stay in the fray for the victory is worth the battles.